Here's a question - how about if you don't "fit the mould" for what is typical for your group(age, profession, or whatever group you can think of)? Most people will think of you as "off".
However - trying to conform will be "off" and inauthentic.
How do you deal with those situations, where being "one of a kind" will lead to being judged as "off" to most people, yet that is who you truly are?
Love this question! Well we have to first question if there is a mold - in the US about 18% of people make over 100k which I think a lot of people sort of set as a standard in some way but in reality the vast majority of most people don’t make that. I think it’s easy to see ourselves as vastly different from the majority when we are only comparing ourselves to a tiny micro section of humanity. But of course many of us, myself included end up organizing life in a different order than the people we hang around with the most for one reason or another. In my experience though you can have a sense of “kindred-ness” with others despite not conforming. I most certainly do not conform in many ways to my peers - but I think and there is evidence in my closest relationships that no matter how different the puzzle pieces of our lives are I am someone you can trust and invest in. If people tend to admire you or judge you instead of see you as someone they want to be close to then there is likely an issue - many of my closer friends haven’t hit the “milestones” I have, we have different religions, races, sexual preferences but there is just a shared humanity - an inner light that connects us. Maybe the point of this article is I think there are practices that turn that light on - even for people who are other because of brain differences.
Here's a question - how about if you don't "fit the mould" for what is typical for your group(age, profession, or whatever group you can think of)? Most people will think of you as "off".
However - trying to conform will be "off" and inauthentic.
How do you deal with those situations, where being "one of a kind" will lead to being judged as "off" to most people, yet that is who you truly are?
Love this question! Well we have to first question if there is a mold - in the US about 18% of people make over 100k which I think a lot of people sort of set as a standard in some way but in reality the vast majority of most people don’t make that. I think it’s easy to see ourselves as vastly different from the majority when we are only comparing ourselves to a tiny micro section of humanity. But of course many of us, myself included end up organizing life in a different order than the people we hang around with the most for one reason or another. In my experience though you can have a sense of “kindred-ness” with others despite not conforming. I most certainly do not conform in many ways to my peers - but I think and there is evidence in my closest relationships that no matter how different the puzzle pieces of our lives are I am someone you can trust and invest in. If people tend to admire you or judge you instead of see you as someone they want to be close to then there is likely an issue - many of my closer friends haven’t hit the “milestones” I have, we have different religions, races, sexual preferences but there is just a shared humanity - an inner light that connects us. Maybe the point of this article is I think there are practices that turn that light on - even for people who are other because of brain differences.